Lesson 2 – Digging Deep Beta 1

Find Your True Calling In Life

Lesson 2

Digging Deep


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Theory

The goal of Lesson 2 is to dig into your past in order to find the answers to your future.

In the next lesson, you will write your Mission in life using a specific recipe; however, the ingredients for that recipe will be harvested here in Lesson 2.

 

The Purpose Of Lesson 2?

The reason for digging through past memories is to find out how you are wired behind that facade that is your EGO. The goal is to go into your past and find situations and circumstances where your EGO was somewhat less prominent and less involved.

There were situations in your past, especially when you were very young, when you were at your essential nature. During those times, you behaved according to a different set of rules than the one provided by your EGO. People may have noticed, and said something to you; these are the memories you are trying to dig up.

For example, major life events, stresses, comments from strangers and other experiences are helpful in revealing your inner workings.

However, I don’t want you to actively search for those memories, instead, simply answer the questions in the exercises below in an honest manner. The questions are designed to bring out those memories in a natural way.

From your answers, you’ll have the needed ingredients to craft your Mission statement in the next lesson.

 

How To Capture These Memories

You will write them down. I haven’t found any other way to do it. You can’t hold all those memories in your short-term active mind; and it’s not effective to record your thoughts on a voice recorder either, because you will need go back to your notes in the next lesson.

You can use pen and paper, or a computer and a word processor. It’s important to be familiar with the writing tool, because you want to concentrate on capturing your memories, instead of being distracted by a new writing tool.

You can either write in point-form using bullets and lists or as continuous text; it doesn’t matter as long as you capture the thoughts.

 

Don’t Waste The Flow

During the exercises, you may enter a state of mind that I call Flow. It’s a state that is conducive to many memories being triggered. Like falling dominos, one memory will trigger another one, then another one, and so forth. This is exactly the state of mind you want to be in while answering the questions.

It will require a bit of effort to reach this state, so make sure to take full advantage of it by not stopping. Continue to write everything. This state of mind is beneficial to the success of this course, don’t waste it.


Practice

One of the objectives of these exercises is to make you sweat a bit. Not physically of course, but mentally and emotionally.

Out of the five lessons in this course, the exercises found in this lesson are the most demanding, both in time and energy. The difficult work that you are about to embark on is a small price to pay for the reward of finding your True Calling in life. Please trust the process.

To make it more manageable, I recommend that you spread the workload over many days. In fact, spread it over as much time as you need to finish it; but be careful to not lose the Flow.

By digging for past memories, good and bad, you will find out who you really are behind the false self that is your EGO and, why you do the things that you do.

 

Guidelines:

  • With each answer, when appropriate, elaborate with why, how, when, who, what. Feel free to ramble on.
  • Don’t rush through the exercises. Spend the necessary time to answer each one to your satisfaction.
  • Even though you may be working on one question, you may get an insight about another area of your life that seems pertinent for some reason. Don’t assume you will be able to remember it for later, instead, write it down, right away.
  • It’s important to be open and honest with yourself. Don’t hold anything back; allow yourself to dig up those forgotten memories, good and bad!
  • Your answers are not for publication, so you don’t need to make it pretty and you will not share it with anyone.
  • You can answer the questions using point form (e.g. bullets and lists) or free-writing.
  • After answering a question, go over what you just wrote and highlight words and sentences that jump out at you. What does “jump out at you” mean? It means, that those words evoke a greater emotional response than the adjacent words. These keys words and sentences are important.
    • Do not skip this step. You will use these highlighted sections in the next lesson.
  • Before starting, block out an adequate amount of time in your agenda and find a quiet place where you know there will be no interruptions. This will give you the best chance of success.

 

Exercise 2.1 – Who Am I?

This is an easy way to start jogging your memory. Read each topic and then write down as many answers as you can think of.

  • What books influenced you? What is the first book that you read?
  • Songs and music that left a mark to this day?
  • Experiences you had that you still remember?
  • Who were the influences in your life?
  • Facts about you?
  • Hypotheses you have created?
  • Insights you had?
  • Pet philosophies?
  • Prejudices?
  • Controversies?
  • Methods of doing something?
  • Risks you took?
  • Surprises that you had?
  • The earliest memories?
  • Role models?
  • Poems?
  • Trips that left an impact?
  • Conversations?
  • Art?
  • Plays?
  • TV shows?
  • etc.

 

Exercise 2.2 – Major Events In My Life

Make a list of all major events that occurred in your life. These are situations that left a mark on you, either good or bad.

  1. Start as far back as you can remember. Traumatic experiences, life changing events, everything that left a mark on you.
  2. Next, attempt to place your answers in a roughly chronological order. It doesn’t have to be accurate as long as the major events are approximately in the right order. The chronological order will help your mind align to your story.
  3. Now that the list is in chronological order, go through your answers and see if you can add more memories to your list.

 

Exercise 2.3 – How I Spent My Time As A Child

What did you do as a child? What did you love to do after school and on weekends, when summer arrived and school was out. How did you spend your time as a child?

 

Exercise 2.4 – How I Helped People In The Past

How did you help others? How are you drawn to help people? Who are they? What were the circumstances?

What does “helping others” look like to you?

 

Exercise 2.5 – Comments Or Compliments I Receive

What recurring comments or compliments do you receive from people, be it family, friends, teachers or strangers?

What commonalities do people notice about you?

 

Exercise 2.6 – What Comes Naturally To Me

What do you do so naturally that you don’t even think about it? This may be difficult to answer, because what comes naturally to you may not be obvious to you. Feel free to ask people who know you well.

 

Exercise 2.7 – What I Really Hate To Do

What situations or circumstances have you encountered that you really hated? For this question, it will be important to dig a little deeper to find the reason(s).

E.g. “For me it was going door-to-door selling newspaper subscriptions when I was young; I hated it. Why did I hate it so much? It left me with the impression that people don’t want to be disturbed in their homes… and I felt like I was the one doing the disturbing, for something they did not care about and neither did I… I’m surprised that I still remember that, I guess it left an impression on me.”

 

Exercise 2.8 – Who I Admire And Why

Make a list of people you admire and the reasons for it. Be very specific with the reasons. It can be anyone and for any reason, from a famous person to a neighbor.

 

Exercise 2.9 – What I’m Proud Of

What are things you are most proud of in life?

What have you accomplished, either small or big, that you are proud of. Did it require you to do something that was difficult? Something that pushed you out of your comfort zone?

 

Exercise 2.10 – What Would I Do If I Knew I Could Not Fail?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Think big!

 

Exercise 2.11 – What I Really Love To Do

What aspects of your current work and life do you enjoy the most and why?


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5 thoughts on “Lesson 2 – Digging Deep Beta 1

  1. This is a very time consuming and emotional exercise especially when you are 68 and have moved around. However, it is great to reflect on all the past events and realise how much one actually can remember!

    1. It is indeed time consuming Ruth. It’s meant to put you in a state of flow. It can also be difficult for some people because they may not have processed some important past events in their lives.

      If it’s too much, you can spread the workload over many days. In fact, spread it over as much time as you need to finish it; but don’t take a break in between, you don’t want to lose the momentum (read “Don’t Waste The Flow” above).

      Also, don’t forget to read over your writing and underline (or highlight) those words and passages that “jump out at you”. They will be important for the next lesson.

      This Lesson is meant to start and build-up the mental and emotional fire. The fuel for this fire is memory, your memories. Your past defines who you are today and will be used to create your Mission statement in Lesson 3.

      The difficult work that you are doing now is a small price to pay for the reward of finding your True Calling in life. Keep going! 🙂

  2. In order alleviate some of the workload, I’m thinking about:
    1. Reducing the list in exercise 2.1
    2. Eliminate some of the exercises (which ones?)
    3. Break up this lesson into 2 parts, spread over two weeks

    What do you guys prefer? Any other ideas?

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